bridal showers : I think what they say about bride's maids is so funny that I laughed outloud when I first read it. I'm not sure I like the idea of my friends not telling me my butt looks big in this dress, as an example. However,knowing that my friends my not agree with my choice in flowers, food, orcolor would be stressful. It may be a color I love. In the last weddingI was in, the bride chose a color that looked horrid on all of the bride'smaids. So instead of getting angry, we tried on the dress in 2 differentcolors. First in her color and then just a tad darker shade. The lilaccolor is wonderful but not for our coloring. She noticed that and choseto use both colors...one for the dress and one for the gloves. Here iswhat the website says:"Aside from the costs, bridesmaids also have the responsibility to supportthe bride's choices. You might feel that silk flowers just don't compareto the real thing, but it's not your responsibility to convince the brideto change her mind! Your bridesmaid dress might be unflattering and yourleast favorite color, but your number one responsibility is to keep quietwhen you disagree. It can be extremely difficult to hold your tongue whenthe bride chooses items that you both hate and will have to pay for. Evenif you're asked for your opinion, be tactful and kind for the sake of thebride."
bridal showers : My fiancee is having a bridal shower thrown by her mom, and a second onethrown by her maid of honor. Yesterday we had a big argument about myfamily, and she thinks that they don't care about her at all, becausethey are not throwing her a bridal shower. It is true that they havenot asked too much about how our wedding plans are coming, and theyhaven't been asking about what they could do to help for our upcomingwedding.Just for a little bit of background information, I am 25 and my fianceeis 23. She comes from a family that is very 'involved'. For example,her mother always has plans with either 4-H, Girl Scouts, Churchactivities, School activities, etc. My family is quite laid back. Mymother is in her 60's, and runs a business in my small home town. Ihave 3 sisters that have families with 3-4 kids each. Two of them runbusinesses of their own, and the other is a nurse. My sisters are 36,37, and 38 years old.Is my family being thoughtless by not throwing a shower for her? Howmany bridal showers have some of you ladies had, and who threw them?Should I feel that it is my fault, because my fiancee and I had adiscussion about this non-existant bridal shower 2 weeks ago, and Ididn't take action to have them set up a bridal shower for her?
bridal showers : My opinion, and you won't like it:She has really laid a guilt trip on you, hasn't she? Your bride sounds pretty immature, attention-seeking, and spoiled.Etiquette says that showers are NOT supposed to be given byclose family members, but instead by the bride's friends.A shower is NOT a mandatory part of getting married, andany more than two is pretty excessive. Your sisters are allolder, with other interests, duties and responsibilities.Your mother should not be throwing a gift shower for yourbride, but if she really wanted to do something (which itsounds as though she doesn't) she could give a tea or a party to introduce your fiancee to your side of the family ifthey don't all know her by now.I wouldn't let her make this into a big deal. If it becomesa problem, insist on getting some couples counselling.It might help a lot in the long run.According to a book I read on wedding etiquette--Miss Manners, I think--theimmediate family is NOT supposed to have a shower for the bride. Her mothershould not host the shower--a friend or a less intimate relative should instead.
bridal showers : I am having two showers, one hosted by my future mother-in-law's best friends,and one by my cousin (a bridesmaid) and her mother, my aunt. My maid of honorwanted to throw me a third shower, but since that would entail inviting almostall of the same guests who are going to the cousins' shower, I told her I'drather she didn't. You can have more than one shower, but I don't think you should be hitting upthe same guests over and over again. The one thing I'd be concerned about is the attitude that she's "entitled" toall these showers. That will come off in her interactions with your family andother guests--she really needs to be gracious here. Besides, reassure her thatthe two of you will get PLENTY of gifts. How even more VULGAR! Your fiancee is too immature to even think about gettingmarried.All I can tell you is that close family members, such as mothers, sisters,etc. should not throw bridal showers. In my opinion, any more than oneshower is too many and running the risk of appearing too greedy. I'll haveto agree with Puester that she sounds immature, as well as manipulative. Abridal shower is supposed to be a gift that is bestowed on the bride by herclose friends, not something that she insists on like it or not.
bridal showers : If you don't want to face a lifetime of these kinds of manipulations andpettiness, I'd get couples counseling as soon as possible.For what its worth, my husbands family didn't show too much interest in thewedding (or in me, for that matter) but I learned to appreciate that Ididn't have to worry about their opinions.My condolences on your upcoming nuptials to a brat. Two showers, one ofwhich is being hosted by her mother (major etiquette faux pas), and she'swilling to guilt manipulate you and engage in a major fight just to havestill one more shower. Do you really want to be married to a brat, aprimodonna who has to be the center of attention such that she wouldwillingly risk relational happiness with you, familial harmony with thein-laws for the transient happiness of a few more gifts? Are all herrelationships predicated upon the number or value of gifts given to her?Do you intend to spend your married years "soothing" the savage beast youmarried with parties and gifts? Hint: You will never satisfy her.Your family is not being thoughtless. Quite the contrary. Rather thanfurther promote the notion that the families are greedy, they aredoing what all good families should do: let friends host the shower.It's not correct for family to host showers; it gives all theappearance of gift-grubbing.
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