wedding registry : And the list goes on and on and on and on.... a total of 130 items andmost of the items are well over $100. I was completely dumbfounded.The weird thing is that her and her fiance's family are traditionallybig money givers when it comes to weddings, so she told me she doesn'texpect a lot of presents (?????). Oh and by the way, she alsoregistered at a couple other stores as well.I know my registry is probably a little skimpy to begin with, but Ijust wouldn't feel right asking for those expensive things from thepeople I love. And if it matters, her wedding is going to be biggerthan mine with the reception held at a restaurant, whereas my weddingwill be at a very nice resort (about 130 guests).Anyway, am I crazy or is my friend's registry totally outrageous? Tome, it just shows that she's selfish, and I think her guests wouldfeel insulted that she expects so much from them.Ah, but you're not asking. A registry is not a demand list and as longas you're not circulating the list to people, you're not asking themfor anything. Gift giving is optional. The registry is merely a wishlist and contains specific preferences. People are free to choose agift all on their own.
wedding registry : Perhaps to you, yes. In her circle of "big money givers," perhaps not.Couples are not privy their friends wallet, but we all have a prettygood idea of what our friends spending habits are. It behoovessensible couples to include a number of lower-priced items (somethingless than $56, the least expensive item on the aforementionedregistry). Otherwise, couples should be prepared that people will balkat a certain price level and will choose not to purchase from theregistry - which is the guests' choice - but pricing your friends outof the registry defeats one purpose: to help clueless friends andfamily select a gift which they know you desire.Ah, again, it's that assumption of "expects." No one should expect anygift but should be delighted at any gift given, even one from theregistry.. The registry should not be looked upon as "These are thegifts I expect" list, but as a guideline for guests who choose not toselect something on their own. Guests should neither feel insulted norpressured to purchase off a registry. The choice of gift is entirelywithin the control of the guest, not the bridal couple. And if thecouple creates a registry of items too rich for their friends' comfortlevel, then so be it; they'll be given a lot of *other* original giftsinstead.
wedding registry : I also have a rather large registry. Many items under $50 and under, andsome over $200.Bloomies will give me and my future husband a discount (which can becombined with any sales, coupons, and new card "bonuses") on items notreceived, thus we can buy them cheaper than if we just walked into thestore. Not a bad deal!My guests who want to purchase off my list have an idea of what we like, andwe can get a discount....That's one of the big reason we put some higher-priced itemson our registry. My family is heavily in the under $50 giftrange. I never expected anyone to buy the $100 placesettings on our registry (although we did get one). However, it was nice to be able to buy them ourselves with abig discount after the wedding.Size of the wedding and reception is irrelevent as to how much oneregisters for since it leads to a slippery slope mentality of presumingand anticipating the amount spent on gifts by guests.On the broad continuum of registries, with no registry being at one endand "outrageous" being on the other, your friend's registry fallssomewhere to the right of average. An "outrageous" registry is the one Iknow of where the couple registered for ten (10) trips to Hawaii.
wedding registry : I guess that would take care of the honeymoon and first9 anniversaries.... I'll save VULGAR for Ron and chimein with GREEDY.It really depends on what is customary in your area, among her family andamong her family's friends. I don't think her registry is particularlyoutrageous, but then again, our friends and family tend to be very generousabout weddings. It really does depend on a lot of things. Our china was $100per place setting, and we had several comments about how reasonable thatprice was. Of course, we also registered for much less expensive items too.In fact, I would recommend to you to register for at least a few moreexpensive items as well as what you already have. You never know. Someonemight want to give you a larger gift and if there's something on yourregistry in that price range, they may buy it for you. At the very worst, noone buys your more expensive items. At some stores, you get a discount onanything you buy off your own registry up to one year after the wedding, sohaving more items on the registry can be worthwhile.
wedding registry : Sometimes people will go together to get something on the more pricey side.With this in mind, it's perfectly fine to have a few items in the $100 pluscategory. Just FYI, about 75% of our wedding gifts were monetary.I understand how you feel, but what I think would be a good idea is to havea list of high and low priced items registered. Many times a few people,such as an office group, or a couple of aunts and neices, etc, will go in ona place setting, or something expensive etc. But there are many people whoare singles and just purchasing gifts by themselves, and for this reasonthey should have some inexpensive gifts to choose from. Otherwise, just buywhat you want, or something you know they can use more than one of.Exactly. We had some people who went out and bought an entire bed ensemble(sheets, blankets, pillowcases), and entire families that went in ongifts. And one cool gift was from one of my husband's highschool students: He went through and bought all the cooking utensilslisted on the registry and wrapped them all up. Another gift was from myhusband's frat: as a group, they bought us a scanner, and for the bow,they included a couple color printer ink cartridges. We registered forstuff everywhere from $2.99 up through $299 (Playstation II. Didn't getit). The absolute coolest stuff, though, was things people just figuredout on their own: 16 rolls of photos. Another present was about 10 rolls,sorted and in an album. Very cool posable wooden statuette. Selection ofcooking spices. The registered teapot with a bunch of cool teas and ateaball. And then there was cash, which we've used for the honeymoon plusfor re-siding the house. We have some incredibly generous friends andfamily.
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